My friend Claire writes:
-“She has gone into a rather withdrawn space of not wishing to have other people’s suggestions on how she might be helped. Especially when instigated by her husband! I’m standing back a little until she seems more receptive to outside help. Her specialist may not have given her much to be optimistic about… the positive suggestions you outlined would be so helpful & empowering for her.”
My response to a long letter she has sent me last night:
I love the way you write with so much kindness, beauty, elegance and love.
Nellie is frightened and probably grieving for the life she imagined she would have had without Parkinson’s .
When we are right in the middle of our problems we cannot see that every problem is a gift and a potential for growth.
Facing them head on shows us the human spirit within us which is undeniable, indestructible and always available to our command.
We often forget about it as we get settled in life and get comfortable.
Growth always happens out of our comfort zone. When someone tries to remind us about the above at the time we are in a suffering mode we could get angry and or shut down.
It is natural; as at that point we are acting from pain and looking at solutions that are not giving us the answers to our extraordinary problems.
Those problems can only be solved with extraordinary solutions.
As Einstein said you cannot solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created them.
With Parkinson’s it is about dopamine balance.
Increased dopamine leads to heightened mood, dopamine shortage will lead to anhedonia, the person feels bored, don’t feel pleasure they seem they don’t care.
Dopamine also affects the person’s ability to move and their physiology, their endocrine system pituitary gland etc.
We also often forget that
*every problem has a solution if we really want to solve it *
* that it is all just an illusion it is not real, but it feels like it *
*that we have a short time here on Earth and it is up to us what we choose to do and how we choose to spend our time while we are here.
*we must let/allow everybody to choose freely on their path of dealing with their problems including our loved ones we so much would love to help
When she is ready she will find me.
Ps. She might be interested in to know about what I’ve noticed on medical records of my clients over nearly 4 decades of working with individuals diagnosed with Parkinson’s.
Join me in to hear it in
Corpus Christi College, Oxford.
Saturday 5th October 2019